Model husband "Yan Sihe:" Holding hands, we still have to walk together in the next life

He worked tirelessly for most of his life, and at the age of retirement, faced with his paralyzed wife, he refused the idea of hiring a nanny to take care of his children and decided to personally take care of her. This was his 11 years of work, and "taking care of his wife is the husband's responsibility".

He is Yan Sihe, a villager from Yinshui Village, Muding Township, Yingshan County, Nanchong City, Sichuan Province. Over 4000 days and nights, he wrote the word "husband" as the most steadfast guardian in the humble abode of the mountain village.

Sudden stroke, wife loses self-care ability

Yan Sihe was born in Yinshui Village, Muding Township in May 1948. At the age of 12, his father unfortunately passed away and he was raised by his mother. In July 1968, she tied the knot with Guo Biying, a girl from our village. Although they lived a simple life, they were very harmonious and almost never had a quarrel. They have one son and two daughters under their knees. In the 1980s and 1990s, Yan Sihe carried a camera to visit villages and households, not only taking photos but also developing them himself to earn money for his children's education; Later, he went to Ya'an to work as a manager in a stone factory, earning money to support his family. Guo Biying cooks farm work at home and raises five or six fat pigs almost every year, keeping the house and surroundings in an orderly manner.

After their children started their families and careers, Yan Si and his wife lived a relaxed and comfortable life. However, unexpected events occurred. At 4 pm on the tenth day of the first lunar month in 2015, Guo Biying suddenly suffered a stroke and fell into a coma. She lost consciousness in her right hand and leg, could not speak, and was on the brink of death. Yan Sihe quickly called an ambulance from Muding Township Health Center and rushed to Yingshan County Traditional Chinese Medicine Hospital for treatment. After diagnosis, Guo Biying suffered from cerebral hemorrhage with a large amount of bleeding, and her condition was critical. Therefore, she was sent to the intensive care unit.

She stayed in the intensive care unit for a week before waking up, and was then transferred to the general ward. I was responsible for taking care of her in the hospital. At that time, the conditions in the old hospital area were poor, and for a period of time, the elevator broke down, so I had to carry her up and down three floors. I had to clean her body and feed her every day. "Yan Sihe said that after careful treatment by the attending physician, she was forcibly taken from the hands of death, and then achieved good results through physical therapy rehabilitation training. In June 2015, Guo Biying was discharged from the hospital but lost her ability to take care of herself.

Taking meticulous care of every little detail in daily life is a deep affection

On June 18th, at 6:30 in the morning, Yan Sihe woke up on time. After washing up, boil a pot of warm water for your wife, then help scrub her body, get dressed, go to the bathroom, wash her face, and install dentures. 8:30, have breakfast. Next, clean up and feed the chickens and ducks. At 11 o'clock, Yan Sihe started making lunch. Steamed dried rice with green beans, braised wax steak, mung bean and towel gourd soup, and fried lettuce. After dinner, tidy up the household chores, take a nap for an hour and a half, then go to the vegetable garden to pick fresh vegetables such as cowpeas, green beans, cucumbers, etc., and prepare for dinner. After dinner, help your wife remove her dentures and soak them in salt water. Watch TV with your spouse for two hours before going to bed.

Yan Sihe spent over 4000 days like this. On that day, the author came to Yan Sihe's house and saw that the entire courtyard was clean and tidy. The triangular plum blossoms outside the courtyard were in full bloom, and an old yellow magnolia tree in front of the house was in full bloom, adding a touch of vitality to the house.

Passing through the side door and entering the small bedroom, Guo Biying sat in a wheelchair, dressed neatly, with a straight back and shining eyes. The author is deeply surprised: in the room of a patient who has been bedridden for many years due to stroke, not only is there no odor, but the body and bed are also very clean and tidy. The warm sunshine poured in through the window, making the small house look particularly peaceful and serene.

In the bowl in front of Guo Biying, there are still a few pieces of tender stewed pork ribs left. The author asked, "Who cooked the pork ribs?" Guo Biying pointed her finger slowly at Yan Sihe and said, "He

Who will help you take a shower? "She tugged at Yan Sihe's hem and spoke slowly but clearly," Sihe. "She smiled, her eyes moist.

Yan Sihe has put in a lot of effort to take good care of his paralyzed wife. Buy rehabilitation equipment to assist my wife in rehabilitation training. Self study massage knowledge and massage my wife. He has never traveled far and rarely goes to his relatives' homes. When he encounters a banquet hosted by relatives and friends, he usually asks someone to bring him gifts. Even if I go to the market to buy things, I always ride my motorcycle to go back and forth quickly. In order to encourage his wife to eat more and take good care of her body, Yan Siping changes the dishes every day, steaming, stir frying, stewing, and boiling in turns, trying every possible way to carefully prepare various delicious foods.

At the most difficult time, my wife couldn't speak, had incontinence, and often had to change her diaper. I had to turn over and clean her every day, and feed her food and medicine, "Yan Sihe said." My wife had never had bedsores, and her consciousness and perception gradually recovered. "Four years later, she was able to recognize the people who visited her, speak, eat and brush her teeth with her left hand, and even relieve her own constipation by using her diaper at night

Touching his neighbors, he is a true 'model husband'

Guo Biying has just been paralyzed. Considering that her father is over sixty years old, the children discussed hiring a nanny to take care of her mother and also allow her father to enjoy a peaceful life. But Yan Sihe firmly disagrees: "Our children are very filial to us, but they all have their own families. I am Guo Biying's husband, and I have the responsibility and obligation to serve her. Moreover, I am physically strong and can do this well

Taking care of paralyzed patients in the short term may not be difficult, but how can Yan Sihe achieve it for more than 10 years? After all, we are husband and wife, a hundred days of kindness in one day. As a person, we should have a conscience! I will never forget that when we were young, our family was poor, and I had been running around for a long time. She worked on farm work, household chores, and took care of my elderly and sick mother at home. "Yan Sihe said that although she sometimes felt tired, she thought that her wife had contributed a lot to the whole family, and no matter how hard she worked or tired she was, it was worth it!

On the day of the interview, many villagers rushed to Yan Sihe's house and "leaked" information to the author. Yan Sihe has been taking good care of his paralyzed wife for more than 10 years. He is down-to-earth, kind, and responsible, and is a true model husband that is worth learning from! "Said villager Guo Xiaojun. Yan Sihe and his wife have a wish to attend a market. During the May Day holiday in 2025, Yan Sihe and his son used a small car to pull Guo Biying to the town, allowing her to sit in a wheelchair and experience the changes in the town.

According to common sense, Yan Sihe should have been an elderly person in need of care, but he never gave up and took good care of his paralyzed wife for more than 10 years. It is not easy to find such a good man to light lanterns and torches. Guo Biying's illness was unfortunate, but meeting such a good husband was also very fortunate. Guo Biying's occasional smile on her face proves that she is happy! "Said villager Xiao Songlin.

In the eyes of the villagers, Yan Sihe is a simple and kind good villager, the backbone of diligent and frugal household management, and a good husband who cherishes and treats his wife well. Guo Biying and I are husband and wife, and we should share blessings and difficulties together. Holding hands, we will walk together in the next life, "Yan Sihe said excitedly.

As the sun set, Yan Sihe strolled around the courtyard with his wheelchair, letting his wife breathe fresh air. At this moment, the golden sunshine reflected the smiling faces of Yan Si and his wife, and a faint floral fragrance floated in the air. This scene was warm, beautiful, and even more precious... (Peng Jie)